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Today marks the thrilling kickoff of the Women’s Rugby World Cup 2025.

England might be the favourites, but with that tag comes the weight of expectation. Tournament rugby brings storms – moments of chaos and pressure that test even the best. To be crowned champions of the world, they’ll need to keep calm and deliver when it matters most. They have it within them… but time will tell.

However… let’s not forget, this isn’t just about England. There is no World Cup without the other 15 teams. Yes, there’s a big gap between the top nations and the rest when it comes to experience and investment, but that doesn’t make this any less special. Every single player who takes to the pitch over the next five weeks will be wearing their nation’s pride and carrying something bigger than themselves. They’ll be inspiring young girls everywhere, those who already love rugby, and those who don’t even know the game yet.

As a dad to three rugby-playing daughters, and as someone who coaches youth girls’ rugby, I get a ringside seat to see what this game gives to girls. Confidence. Belonging. Strength. Resilience. It’s a privilege to witness how the sport shapes them, both on and off the pitch. That’s why this World Cup feels so personal. It’s more than just a tournament, it’s a movement.

We’ll be taking in four games as a family during the competition, not just the giants of the women’s game, but some of the up-and-coming nations, too. I can’t wait to feel the buzz that only a World Cup can bring with all the colour, the songs, the raw emotion and shared passion for the game!

To all those world-class athletes who will light up the stadiums over the next five weeks: good luck. Win or lose, carry yourselves with pride. Remember, every kick, every tackle, every pass, every weaving run, every try is inspiring the future of women’s rugby, and women’s sport as a whole.

This is history in the making. And I’m so grateful to be here for it.

What Trevor Noah’s Theme Park Story Taught Me About Slowing Down

I was going through my usual morning routine whilst listening to a podcast, this one featuring two of my favourite podcasters – Trevor Noah was the guest on Steven Bartlett’s Diary of a CEO podcast. About halfway in, Trevor told a story that instantly caught my attention partly because it was so simple and partly because it carried a truth I hadn’t considered before.

He described being invited to a theme park as a special guest, with the VIP treatment that meant no queues and priority access to every ride. He and his friends raced from one attraction to the next, packing in every major ride in just a few hours. They expected to leave on a high. Instead they walked away feeling tired, slightly flat, and oddly unsatisfied.

It was only afterwards that they realised why. The moments they’d skipped; standing in line, chatting, hearing the screams from the ride ahead and building up the anticipation were part of what made theme parks so enjoyable in the first place. Without them, the day felt like a checklist rather than an experience.

That observation started me thinking about how often we approach life in the same way. We focus on the headline moments – the promotion, the holiday, the party, the big achievement – and rush to get there as quickly as possible. In doing so, we can end up stripping away the slower, quieter parts that give those high points their meaning.

Those “queue moments” in life are everywhere. They’re in the walk to meet a friend, the morning coffee before work, the casual chats at the school gate, or the time between meetings when nothing much seems to be happening. We don’t usually see them as important, yet they often hold the very connection and texture that makes life feel full.

Listening to Trevor’s story made me think about how much of our culture is designed to skip the wait. We buy faster delivery, choose express checkouts and fill every pause with a scroll through our phones. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with efficiency, but when speed becomes the default we risk missing the moments that allow us to notice, connect and anticipate.

Since that podcast, I’ve been trying something different. When I find myself in a “queue moment” whether literally in a queue at a shop or figuratively in a lull between tasks, I put the phone away, take a breath and look around. Sometimes, I strike up a conversation. Other times, I just notice what’s going on around me. It doesn’t make the ride come faster, but it does make the wait feel like part of the day rather than time lost.

Trevor’s experience was a reminder that the value of an adventure is often found in the build-up not just in the peak itself. The anticipation, the chatter and the stillness before the thrill all matter. When we rush through them, we can end up with more rides… but less of an experience.

Next time you’re in a queue, literal or otherwise, try seeing it as part of the story. Give yourself permission to slow down, notice and be present. You might find that the wait is where much of the joy actually lives.

We were swimming in the sea off the coast of Croatia, wading out towards a sandbank that shimmered in the distance. The water was calm and no deeper than waist height, the sun beating down and everyone enjoying the moment, until my daughter stopped suddenly. She looked ahead and then back at us before announcing she didn’t want to go any further. In her mind it was now too far and too dangerous.

No matter how many ways we tried to explain that the water wouldn’t get any deeper she was no longer hearing reassurance. Her thoughts had set in: this is not safe. In that moment, no amount of facts would change her experience.

That small moment was a vivid example of how our perception becomes our reality. Even when what we believe doesn’t match the facts, it still feels true and we behave accordingly.

But here’s the thing. Our thoughts can also get us moving. Two days later, that same daughter stood at the edge of a cliff ledge, around eight metres above the sea… and jumped. No one pushed or coaxed her, it was a decision she made, fuelled by a new story in her mind. She’d seen others do it safely. She felt ready. She chose to trust the thrill over the fear. Same person, different moment, different thoughts, and a completely different outcome.

As a coach, I see this kind of shift all the time. Clients bring me challenges that, on the surface, seem concrete. They’ll say “This will never work” or “I’ve failed at this before” or “There’s nothing I can do”. Those thoughts feel utterly convincing. But when we pause and examine them, we often discover they’re not rooted in certainty. They’re rooted in fear, habit or a narrow viewpoint.

The quote “Don’t believe everything you think” by Allan Lokos speaks directly to this. Our minds are brilliant at generating thoughts, but not all of them are useful or accurate. When we mistake every thought for truth, we limit ourselves, whether that’s in the sea, at work or in life more broadly.

I’ve learned to catch myself too. It’s easy to hold tight to the belief that my version of a situation is the right one. But in truth, it’s just my version shaped by my past, my outlook and my current state of mind. That doesn’t make it wrong, but it certainly doesn’t make it the only valid perspective.

In coaching conversations, one of the most powerful shifts often comes from asking a simple question: “What else could be true here?” It doesn’t mean dismissing your feelings or denying your experience. It just opens the door to fresh thinking. When we’re open to that we start to spot options and opportunities we’d otherwise miss.

This mindset is just as relevant on the rugby pitch, where I coach youth teams. One player might believe they’ve failed because they missed a tackle. Another might be certain the coach is disappointed in them. Often, these thoughts aren’t voiced – they’re carried silently, affecting confidence and performance. Helping young players explore different ways of seeing the same situation is part of the learning process. It’s not about pretending everything’s fine, but about understanding that our thoughts are only one version of events.

So, what’s the takeaway? Start noticing your thoughts, especially the ones that shut things down. When you hear yourself saying “I can’t”, “That’s not possible” or “They must think…”, pause. Ask: Is that really true? Could there be another way to see this?

You don’t have to believe every thought that shows up. You can hold them lightly, explore them and decide what serves you best. That simple habit can be the difference between staying stuck and moving forward, whether you’re facing a work dilemma, coaching a team or standing at the edge of a cliff, wondering whether you dare to jump.

Why keeping an open mind is more powerful than proving a point

I came across a comment on a podcast episode recently that really made me pause. Someone had described one of the panel members as “debating to win, not to learn.” It struck a chord, not because I agreed with every point made in the episode (in fact, some rubbed up against my own views), but because I realised that’s exactly what good debate should be about: not winning, but learning.

There’s something incredibly powerful about being able to sit with a perspective that challenges your own. As Aristotle said, “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” These days, though, that mindset feels increasingly rare. We live in a time of echo chambers, where algorithms serve us content we already agree with and social feeds reinforce our beliefs. Exposure to different views has become something we almost have to seek out intentionally.

Of course, that’s not always comfortable. When someone presents an argument that jars with your values or world view, your instinct might be to push back or shut down. That’s natural. But if we go into a conversation with the aim of defending our position at all costs we shut the door on growth. We don’t give ourselves the chance to understand the nuances or lived experiences behind other perspectives, and perhaps more importantly, we don’t allow the other person to feel heard… which means they probably won’t listen to us either.

I think a lot about every time there’s a round of political debates. Increasingly, they seem less about exploring ideas and more about scoring points. Leaders avoid meaningful conversations with their opponents for fear of appearing weak or inconsistent. But how can we expect progress if those in power refuse to engage with differences in a meaningful way? Disagreement doesn’t have to be hostile. In fact, handled well, it can be constructive and even connective.

Debating to learn starts with curiosity. Instead of asking “How can I prove them wrong?” we ask, “What might I be missing here?” or “Why does this issue matter so much to them?” It’s not about agreeing with everything it’s about gaining insight into another way of thinking. That mindset also makes space for us to change our own views, should new information or experiences warrant it. Flexibility isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom.

In practical terms, it helps to approach conversations with a few ground rules in mind:

• Listen without interrupting.
• Ask questions that clarify rather than challenge.
• Avoid assuming bad intent.
• Let go of the need to have the last word.

These aren’t just good habits for political or intellectual debates they apply just as much at work, at home or even in the car with a teenager. Learning to listen with respect and patience helps build stronger relationships, better teams and ultimately a more thoughtful society.

So next time you find yourself in a disagreement, big or small, try asking yourself what you can learn, rather than what you need to prove. We might not all agree, but we can all grow if we stay open to the conversation.

A few years ago, I sat in our local church with my daughters during an all-age service. The pastor told a story that I was reminded of again recently. It wasn’t dramatic or ground-breaking, but it stuck with me, partly because it captured something I’d often seen but never quite found words for.

It was a story about three brothers, their late father’s will, and 17 camels. The father, a wealthy man, had left clear instructions in his will:

• The eldest son would receive half the camels
• The middle son would receive one-third
• The youngest was to receive one-ninth

The sons were content… until they tried to divide up the camels – half of 17 is 8.5, a third is just under 6, and a ninth is a little under 2. No one wanted to cut a camel in half, and no one was willing to accept less than their fair share. They reached a deadlock with each brother protecting his own interests and growing increasingly frustrated.

Then a wise man arrived. Seeing their predicament, he offered his one and only camel to add to the herd. With 18 camels now in total, the maths worked:

• The eldest got 9
• The middle son 6
• The youngest 2

That’s 17 camels. The wise man took back his own camel and walked away with everyone happy!

There’s something beautifully simple about this tale, yet the message is profound. In everyday life, particularly when money, time or pride are involved, it’s easy to get stuck in a “what’s in it for me” mindset. We defend our ground, cling to fractions of things we don’t want to let go of and lose sight of solutions that lie just beyond the obvious.

The story reminds us that problems often feel unsolvable, not because they truly are but because we’re looking at them through a narrow lens. We assume that compromise means loss and that helping others get what they need means giving up on what we need. But what if the opposite is true?

Sometimes the solution is simply to step back, bring in a new perspective or add something to the mix, even temporarily, to create clarity. The wise man in the story wasn’t personally caught up in the dispute, so he could see the bigger picture. That distance gave him insight the brothers didn’t have.

This happens in teams, families and organisations all the time. We get stuck in binary thinking: either I win or you do, but not both of us. What if, like the wise man, we introduce something new, not to give something up permanently, but to unlock a better outcome? That might mean adding a resource, offering a fresh idea or simply being willing to shift the focus from what’s fair on paper to what actually works in practice.

Of course, stepping back is hard when emotions run high or when stakes feel personal, but that’s often when it matters most.

So here’s the takeaway: when faced with a tricky situation, ask yourself, “what’s the extra camel?” What small addition or shift in mindset might break the deadlock? Can you see beyond the fractions and find a whole?

You might just solve the problem without sacrificing a thing.